How to get any girl
Have you ever met one of those guys that know exactly what to say to women, every time? It is both insightful and infuriating to see such confident guys pick and choose the girls they date. This article will explain how to be that guy that girls are always talking about with their friends. It will show you how to talk to any girl and make them want to be with you, without being in the friend zone.
Let me first explain about where this knowledge came from. For several years now, a community of guys analysing and studying dating and relationships has pioneered new methods to attract girls. Literally thousands of guys all over the world have tried and tested many things to say and do. Of course, the results have been mixed. Some methods are vastly more successful than others.
I'm going to share this knowledge with you, right now. So read very carefully.
The number one thing that a guy can do to start having lots of women in his life is simply to start talking to more women. Did you just get a little nervous reading that? Don't worry because when you understand how to do this, you will very quickly be able to pick and choose the girls which you date.
Let's think back to the example of the guy that always knows exactly what to say to women. This isn't 100% true. In truth, these guys don't always know what to say to women, but they try anyway. This is what gets them so many girls. Imagine if they had a deep rooted understanding of female psychology and an array of lines and routines at their disposal. They would be unstoppable.
Let me just say that if you are not 100% committed to changing your own thoughts and behaviours with regards to women, then there is little point in reading this article. It is for those people that want a richer and fuller life filled with beautiful women.
Get rid of your old limiting beliefs
Society conditions people to believe they must meet a certain set of standards before they can get the hottest girls - usually having lots of money, nice clothes, VIP tables and fast cars. This view of proliferated through TV and movies. The truth is you don't need an amazing job, car or lots of money to be able to pick and choose the girls you want to be with.
Take the age old tradition of a guy buying a girl a drink in a bar. This is essentially you buying her attention. While some girls love this, few if any will want to sleep with you. You are being a "nice guy" and girls don't sleep with "nice guys". Worse still, you have a very obvious agenda (to get to know her) and she will sense this immediately and be turned off
From this point you, you are to assume a new mindset that you are the prize and every girl in the bar will be happy and excited when they go home with you. This means you don't agree with everything she says or have an overly nice attitude. You must probe and challenge a girls emotions and bring her into an emotional state of mind. There are many great techniques on how to do this that are discussed later.
How to talk to any girl
Firstly it is key to understand the difference between talking to girls in bars/clubs/at night and talking to girls during the day/in other situations. Remember, girls spend hours getting dressed up and putting on makeup when the go to bars. This is, quite simply, to get guys to notice them and hopefully come talk to them. The former is usually true, guys notice when a good looking girl is around. As a man, you at hotwired to seek out attractive an beautiful women - it is actually part of natural selection to help the species ensure the best and healthiest offspring are produced.
The problem that 99.9% of guys have, is that they don't go and talk to the girl once they notice them. Almost always, a girl will be flattered and get a real kick out of a guy talking to her in this situation - especially if he compliments her looks. Playing the cool "James Bond" character sipping his Martini at the bar will get you nowhere. You need to be active, social and have survival value.
While men notice replication value (looks and good health), women care much more about survival value (confidence, leadership, body Language, how others respond to you and how other women treat you). This is why it is far less important for a guy to be good looking than it for a girl. Forget about having to be tall and handsome with a six-pack, you don't need any of that.
What to say
What you say is actually a lot less important than how you say it, but we will get to that in the next section. The number one thing guys ask is "What do I say to get her to like me?".
The two ways or starting a conversation with a girl are indirect and direct.
Indirect
An indirect approach would be something like "Hey guys, real quick. Would you ever break up with someone over text?". Every girl on the planet has an opinion about this so will respond with yes or no followed by some explanation. You then reply "Cool, the reason I ask is that my friend/colleague/sister wants to break up with this guy she's been seeing for 2 months over text but wasn't sure if it was ok or not". There will usually be some further discussion around this but as soon as possible you can introduce yourself "I'm Bob by the way" and extend your hand to shake.
You are now in a conversation with some girls. Notice that you address a group of girls as "Hey guys". This is a very low pressure introduction. "Real quick" also implies that your not going to stay around very long, which further reduces the pressure on her and makes it look like you are a busy guy. Remember, this opinion opener is simply a tool to get yourself into a conversation with the girl, so don't dwell on it too long.
The best opinion opener statements are those that you are genuinely interested in. The best questions are somewhat controversial and in the news, but light hearted at the same time - often topics around celebrities or dating are the best.
Here are a couple of examples:
You: Hey guys, quick question. Would you ever make out with a celebrity that you knew was married?
Girls: Yes/No/Maybe
You: Uh oh, I thought you were the bad/wild one of the group (point to the girl in the group that says no)
You: The reason I ask is that my friend was in a bar chatting to
You: I'm Roger by the way (shake hand)
You: Hey guys, before I take off. Do you think that if a guy takes a girl out she should always offer to pay half?
Girls: Yes/No/Maybe
You: Remind me always take you to McDonalds (or somewhere cheap).
You: The reason I ask is that my friend took a girl out and when he was about to pay for her, she got really weird and defensive saying she could pay her own way.
You: I'm Roger by the way (shake hand)
Direct Openers
These are high risk, high reward things to say that effectively lays your cards on the table right from the start. The advantage is that you don't waste time and there is no false pre-tenses. The downside is that you are more likely to get blown out at the start. Interestingly, if you get through the first 2 minutes, you are much more likely to go home with a girl that you used a direct opener on.
The best times to use direct openers are when it's late, there is loud music, a girl is on her own or it is crowded and you have to move past a lot of people to get to her. Some good lines to say are: Hey, we haven't met yet, I'm John. Hey, you guys look fun, are you friendly? You look absolutely gorgeous, I had to come say hey... I'm John
You can see these are a lot more straight up and you will very quickly discover if a girl likes you or not. Body language, volume and tone of voice are also critical here.
What you say vs What you communicate
Women are great at interpreting all sorts of social indicators. These include eye contact, facial expressions, how you talk, body language and how other people react to you. Get these right, and t rest is easy.
There are a million different ways to say "Hey, we haven't met yet, I'm John". The words are not as important as tone of voice and body language is. Imagine two identical twins approach two identical girls using this line. One is quiet, jittery (clearly nervous) and has his shoulder hunched and a look of worry on his face. The other is loud, clear, is standing tall with his shoulders relaxed and a nice smile on his face.
It's obvious which one is going to be more successful. Yet most guys would think only about what to say, not how to say it!
The next steps
Ok so now you have a few very basic tools in your arsenal that will enable you to go and talk to women in bars and clubs. Is it really that easy? To talk to any girl is actually very easy, but to trigger massive attraction from them is something completely different.
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